I made sure to thank the front-line attendant when he escorted me to an exam room. I shrugged when the nurse asked me to rank my pain on a scale of one to ten. “Six?” It felt more like eight, but I was sure they’d think I was exaggerating. Besides, I didn’t want to complain.

How I felt didn’t matter. Doing the work, meeting expectations—persisting, smiling, never complaining— that’s what mattered. That’s what I was taught. Since childhood, grit and tenacity co-starred in the action movie constantly rolling in my head.

I was raised by going-gets-tough, tough-get-going women. Though I tried to be like them, I had night terrors and cried at loud noises—my head ached much of the time. To this day, my mother and aunt describe me as having been spleeny—a New England colloquialism that means whiny, prone to hypochondria, and sensitive to everything. “Stop being so spleeny,” they said when I complained of a tummy ache.

At age twelve, I started getting migraines. Twice each month, a stabbing, cold, scorching blade twisted around the nerves in my temple, spreading from behind my right eye, down my neck, and across my scapulae and shoulders. In college, the doctors said I was tense and wrote prescriptions for my nerves. When I was a young mother and, later, a businesswoman, physicians assessed my muscle spasms and suggested wine to relax. Year after year, I heard my type of headaches were often psychosomatic. In other words, it wasn’t an illness; it was just how I was—spleeny, I guess. I swallowed their medicine and got back to work.

I remember lying in a clanking MRI tunnel, cataloging every migraine remedy I had tried without success—prescription-strength pain relievers, anti-depressants, lidocaine patches, Chinese herbs, and essential oils. Sometimes, a double IPA would help a little—if I pressed the cool glass to my head.

Once, a doctor poked my left arm with twenty allergens—wheat, dander, mold, and the like—on the slim chance that one might be the root cause of my headaches. Within minutes, twenty hot and itchy fire-ant hill bumps had emerged on my skin.

“You don’t have allergies, but you have dermatographia.” The specialist told me. “It means you are sensitive to everything.”

She might as well have said spleeny.

Menopause cured my migraines and triggered a midlife reinvention. Please don’t call it retirement. I would not rest or withdraw from active pursuits as the dictionary definition suggested I should—I would persist. Two-thirds of my life had passed, and much was left to accomplish.

I returned to school at age 57 to study for an MFA—just as the world shut down. Professors and administrators emailed their support. “Take a break,” they said. “It’s okay to feel how you feel,” they said, without extending my deadlines.

Throughout 2020 and the year that followed, while Covid exploded, democracy stumbled, and the West literally burned, I persisted. Determined to finish my writing degree, I spun childhood memories into pithy prose. As I dug deeper to find my truth, my stomach began to churn.

I muffled my body’s emotional alarms with antacids and anti-diarrheal chews. The medication labels read, “If symptoms persist for more than three days, call your doctor.” But who’s got the time?

By December of 2021, I had doubled down on self-medication. I was ill and exhausted but determined not to put a damper on a twice-rescheduled vacation. I took anti-anxiety pills for the flights, rum with pineapple juice at the beach, and Kaopectate shooters every night before bed.

I filtered photos of rainbows spanning the azure ocean horizon and posted them to social media, polishing the category-three cyclone in my stomach and the deep gray of my mood into relentlessly happy images. I thought maybe if I could keep up the shiny illusion on the outside, what I felt inside would pass.

Before my suntan could fade, on the eve of a new year, I was in the emergency room. Did gastrointestinal distress even qualify as an emergency? Or was I just being spleeny?

Blue-gowned figures wheeled my gurney to a hospital room upstairs and helped me slide into bed. A doctor on early morning rounds pressed gently on my bloated belly, and I oofed like he’d used a bowling ball instead of his hands.

“What do you think?” I asked, shaping my grimace into a hopeful smile.

He said something about a surgical consult and that he’d see me again tomorrow.

“Tomorrow?” I asked. I pointed out the window where the sleet had turned to snow, barely visible against the dawning sky. “You mean today,” I said.

“I think you’ll be here a while,” he said.

“But,” I persisted. “I don’t get sick.”

I spent three days in the hospital. The diagnosis: collagenous colitis, possibly triggered by long-term use of anti-inflammatory medicines like the aspirin and ibuprofen I’d taken most of my life. It was a serious condition but not likely to be chronic. Six weeks later, in my doctor’s bland white and beige office, I sat stiffly in a vinyl-padded chair while she scanned my last test results.

I exhaled when she proclaimed me much improved. She even used the word normal.

“Now, what should I know about nutrition?” I asked, not content with mere improvement. “Should I try probiotics, eliminate gluten and dairy? Why is my belly still bloated? When can I get back to working out?”

The doctor pulled her hands through her long red-gold hair, forming a sleek ponytail before letting it drop again to her shoulders.

“Slow down; you need to rest,” she said. “You were very sick.”

I stared at a poster-sized illustration of the large intestine behind her head, tracing the curves of the colon, as pink and fatty as sausage. She had explained its primary purpose to me. It absorbs what the body requires and eliminates what no longer serves. Mine had become unable to make the distinction. I was sensitive to everything.

The doctor leaned toward me, eyes unblinking above her pale blue mask, and repeated, “You were very sick,” as though I’d never heard it before. And maybe I hadn’t.

I chewed on her words and let them land in my belly. And for the first time, I believed it. It’s okay to feel how you feel.

Psychic Ancestry: A Magical Link to the Past Using Unconventional Methods

by Terri Blair

  A uniquely thrilling, first-person account of what happens when traditional ancestry research and psychic skills merge. It begins with a whisper from Terri’s long dead great-grandmother, as she steps into a labyrinth on a hot summer day: “You must write our stories.” It makes her wonder, who was her great-grandmother? And who were her ancestors? Terri’s troubled childhood left her disinterested in her family history. But with this beckoning from beyond, she decides to investigate. As research into her heritage deepens and conventional methods fail to provide all the answers, she begins to see a way to use her psychic skills to connect directly with those who came before her. A cast of characters emerges. From servants, inventors, psychics, sea captains, and whiskey barrel makers to enslavers and Freemasons, her ancestors step forward. They all have stories to tell. Terri's psychic skills push the boundaries of what is possible in ancestry research. Misconceptions about the paranormal and psychic mediums are explored and explained in a practical manner. Honest, heartfelt, and inspiring, this tale may spark your interest in discovering your roots and exploring your own psychic potential. “I loved the interplay between traditional genealogical research and the author’s own psychic discoveries. Terri Blair weaves together the present with the past in this beautiful story of her own family’s history. I recommend this book for a dreamy walk through life and the afterlife.” — Amazon Reviewer Available from Amazon, Bookshop, Barnes and Noble, and your local independent bookseller.

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